I’m still waiting for my contract to start this November (Yay!) but I still go to interviews. First, because I’m still hoping I can get a job earlier than November. Second, because I like to improve my communication skills and I think, going to interviews is one of the best ways to do it.

Anyway, I went to an interview last week, this time for a dating site for married couples. During the initial interview with the HR, one of the questions was, knowing we are in this industry, are you still ok to proceed to the next phase of the interview? I said yes. What I told her is that I am a professional, open-minded and that it doesn’t matter which industry I work on as long as it’s legal. The truth is, I just want to be interviewed, I was not even thinking about the industry and I was not even aware that there was such a dating site like that.

So I went to the interview, nailed it (yeah, I felt I nailed it) and went home. That’s when I started questioning my self. Do I really want to be working for a company like that?

I remember in one of the podcasts that I’m listening to, they asked the question, is your company contributing towards the greater good of the world and if they are not, what are you going to do about it? That was what’s been running through my mind during the weekend. If I get the job, what am I gonna do about it?

We, Roman Catholics, believe that marriage is a sacred vow, in fact, there’s a verse in the bible that says “What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.”. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a super hardcore catholic and I’m serious when I said that I am open-minded, but marriage according to my beliefs and values system is sacred. Again, I am not questioning the industry, I am questioning my self.

I was thinking if I get an offer, will I reject it or will I accept it because, at the end of the day, I have to provide for my family. I actually prayed for it over the weekend and on Monday, I got my answer. I did not get the job, and what’s surprising is that I’m not sad at all. It’s as if the thorn on my side was suddenly removed and it felt amazing.

What’s my point? Each of us has different beliefs and values system. What may be true for you, will not be true for me. But what’s always true is that, if you are not honoring your beliefs and your values, you will be in a state of chaos. Let’s be real, we got to do what we got to do, but if you have the chance to choose between compromising or honoring your beliefs and values system, always choose to honor it. Life will be so much better.

A lot of us are living with disconnected values and beliefs and if only we know them, we are one step towards controlling our emotions, our overall state and our happiness.

How strong is your beliefs and values system?