Acknowledge what you have accomplished thus far…
When I was just starting out my coaching journey a year ago, we had peer coaching sessions. In these sessions, we coached each other for 24 sessions in whatever topic we want solved or addressed. I enjoyed those sessions and to tell you honestly, I’ve made a lot of breakthroughs during those sessions.
What I get coached on the most is my lack of self-validation and self-acknowledgment. The reason why I feel not good enough, the reason why I don’t stop proving myself to others and the reason why I’m never contented is that I don’t acknowledge what I have accomplished in my life.
At first, I was in denial of this fact, but after 24 sessions, I was able to break through and I am now more appreciative of what I’ve accomplished. In fact, it’s now my main source of confidence.
I had a brief conversation with a colleague of mine regarding how he feels berated by people because of his disability. This is the main culprit why he has low self-confidence and high-stress level. When I asked him, “Do you appreciate what you have accomplished thus far?” He said he doesn’t. That was a huge aha moment for him, and for me as well.
If it was true for him and true for me, then most probably, it must be true for most of us.
What’s my point? We tend to forget that we grow every second, that we accomplished things big and small every minute, every hour, every day. If we look back from where we started to where we are now, it’s hard not to notice our growth. So the next time you feel you are not good enough, you have to prove yourself to others, you are not contented and when your automatic negative thoughts are kicking in, give yourself a pat in the back and tell yourself, I’ve come this far, I’ve done great, nothing can stop me from doing greater things today, tomorrow and as long as I live for my self and for the people I care for.
Now give yourself a pat on the back. You’ve accomplished great things and you are where you need to be.